Category Archives: writing

To Sleep, Or Not To Sleep…

I need your help solving a problem. Writing it all out here will help, but your input will help even more. I gotta know: how do you balance sleep and pursuing the things you love?

Here’s my deal:

I could get more writing done if I woke up just one hour earlier each morning. But I’d be missing one hour of sleep.

I could go to bed one hour earlier, but I’d be missing an hour spent with my hubby (which is a rare, valuable thing these days!)

I could start drinking caffeine again, and get everything I wanted–but I might end up crashing or getting sick after some weeks.  But that’s a maybe, not a definite.

So do I bet on the maybe?

A little more than a year ago, I spent a month waking up each morning at 5AM; I got ready for work until 5:45, then wrote until 6:40 (when I got my kids up and ready for daycare.) It was amazing for my writing! I made so much headway on my projects (plus, I’m at my most creative first thing in the morning, so it was even high-quality headway!) But, I fell asleep on the sofa before 10PM each night, which cut into hubby-hangout time significantly. And then, after a month or so, I crashed. I couldn’t make myself get out of bed before 6:30AM to save my life. That felt worse than the early rising had felt good. So then I was back to square one. I make decent progress on my projects as is, but I know I’m capable of more/better.

So, what do you all do?  Any of you out there who have to slot your passion into impossibly small slivers of time, how do you do it?  Have you come up with any key observations/practices that have made the whole thing easier/more successful?

I’m all ears! Send me your success stories, horror stories, and lessons learned!


Why Sarah MacLean is amazing, and Romance is #NotSilly

I attended Emerald City Writers’ Conference last weekend, and it was AMAZING!  I attended last year and had a great time–this year was even better.  Not the least of why being Sarah MacLean’s keynote address on Saturday.

I mean, I had a feeling it was going to be good when she got up on the stage wearing a shirt that read “Ask me about my feminist agenda.”  And, if you’ve ever visited her Twitter profile, you know she is smart, funny, educated–and all about equality and parity between the sexes.

In other words, totally my kind of chick.

Anyway, I wish I’d recorded her keynote, or at least taken notes so I could give you all a more thorough rundown, but here’s the gist:

The Romance genre, its authors–and it’s readers–are called everything from harmless to dangerous by the wider literary community and media. We’re accused of setting unrealistic expectations. We’re called silly.

And that word–silly–is what Sarah MacLean has the most trouble swallowing.

It’s not silly to be the highest selling genre of fiction.

It’s not silly to be an industry of predominantly women, for predominantly women.

It’s not silly for women or men to have healthy romantic relationships where they are satisfied both emotionally and physically. (And no matter what anybody tells you, healthy, satisfying relationships are not an unrealistic expectation!)


In this last week of #metoo, and in this last year of increasing attacks on women’s ability to control our own healthcare, the Romance genre is even less silly.  Romance is here to remind us that we are deserving of better. We are deserving of equal. We are deserving of respect. Of common decency. Of freedom to choose: to have sex, to abstain, to consent, to say no, to walk away, to make mistakes, to act–to live with the same expectation of justice and respect that our male counterparts enjoy.

I hope you agree. If so, I encourage you to share your stories of why Romance is #notsilly to you. Spread the word!

1433273850616In more fun news, Sarah gave everyone at the keynote her book, The Rogue Not Taken. I’ve never read a historical romance (besides Pride & Prejudice, of course!) so I’ll be giving it a go as soon as I finish Interview With A Vampire (#ElleReadsInterview)


#ECWC2017 or Bust!

Hello everyone!  As I post this, I am at Emerald City Writers’ Conference!  Last year, I met so many awesome people, attended some seriously eye-opening classes, and got to listen to some of the most respected authors in the Romance industry speak.

So, of course, I’m doing it again this year!

There will be all kinds of great things to tweet and post about, so keep an eye out on Twitter!

AND, if you’re in the Pacific Northwest, come on out to the Passport to Romance reader appreciation event on Saturday night!  It’s open to the public, there will be tons of authors there to meet and chat with + drinks, tons of swag, and a really fun atmosphere. If you decide to attend, comment or tweet at me so I can say hi!